Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible for a
woman to take her husband’s name or his family name because that is
attributing oneself to someone other than one’s father, and imitating the
kuffaar from whom this custom was adopted.
Al-Bukhaari (3508) and
Muslim (61) narrated from Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he
heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Any
man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father is
guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people when he has nothing to
do with them, let him take his place in Hell.”
“when he has nothing to do
with them” means, when he has no lineage among them, as is highlighted in
Based on that, the husband
has no right to force his wife to do that, and if he forces her to do it she
should not obey him, because it is obedience to a created being which
involves disobedience to the Creator. So she should persist in her refusal
and explain to him that it is haraam, and look for Islamically acceptable
means of establishing her rights from a legal point of view.
For more information please
see the answer to question no. 6241
And Allaah knows best.